When life isn’t fair…don’t take it out on your kids.
I could just leave it at that, we all know how easy it is to experience pressure in life, and when the pressure is on we feel the need to let off a little steam. Who feels the steam? Usually someone you love VERY much. Why is it so easy to let off steam on our children? They are the ones that are constantly pulling on your pant leg when you are in the middle of a very important phone conversation, or trying to make dinner, or you know, it could be anything.
Yesterday I had a hard day, and I snapped at the kids a lot. They just could not seem to do anything right. WHY on earth wont those kids stop arguing?! How many times will I have to tell Aidan to “STOP pestering your sister!” Why do you think that it would be okay to run over Guenna with a big office chair? It just doesn’t make sense to me and I got upset with Aidan for running her over.
This morning, His mercies were new and fresh and it was the beginning of a new day. I started the day by gathering all the kids on the couch and explaining to them what kind of day I was having, and that I was very impatient with them yesterday and that I needed their forgiveness. They are always so gracious and glad to forgive my sins, thank You Father. So we went about our day, and it was a good day. I put all of this week’s garbage in the Lord’s hands and we had a good day.
Tonight at dinner, (my dear friend brought us corn dogs and french fries, thank you Jana!) I said to the kids enthusiastically, “wasn’t today a wonderful day?!” And they all agreed very cheerfully. Then Aidan became very solemn and looked at me very seriously and said, “Mommy the other day when you were frustrated, the way you talked to me made me feel sad.”
Break my heart.
“Son, I am so sorry.”
“I forgive you mommy.”
“Thank you for telling me that son, I needed to hear that. You know that our words can be very hurtful at times. But our words can also make people feel good. Like this morning when I asked you to forgive me, didn’t that make you feel better?”
“Yep, it made it all better.” A big smile on his face. Wow. I am so blessed. Lord please give me the grace to always remember how special these little people are, and to guard my tongue so that my words do not damage their sweet spirit. You’ve entrusted me with their lives, I pray that You will also give me the love and patience to help them grow into godly adults. Thank you for their love and forgiveness, they are priceless.