Learning lessons in Cheerfulness

I’ve been doing a “Cheerful Chart” for my kids this past week and again this week, it has been a learning and eye-opening experience for all of us. Today Aidan was talking to a lady at he grocery store, she had just said, “you sure have your hands full”, and I responded, “my husband has the other one.” To which she then responded, “UGH!” Aidan piped in, “we have a cheerful chart! The hand is for sharing and when we share we get little pictures on our cheerful chart!” He told the lady all this in a very “cheerful” tone, she responded, “oh, do you homeschool?” I just thought it a little humorous, I have to laugh, otherwise I would have to avoid the public altogether, that wouldn’t be good! Anyway, back to our cheerful chart…

It’s been good. The kids love it. They really talk about it all the time, in fact Aidan is a little bummed that we didn’t include Cait this week, and he’s really hoping to get daddy and I on the chart. And although we could definitely use the encouragement, we are not the focal point here, or are we? I’ve known for a long time that I have needed to work on my responses to life situations, and kids in particular. More than any other being, small children do not want to be controlled! And this can be disturbing at times if you are an orderly personality, which I am. All of this to say that this cheerful chart has really done more for me than for them. Mommy sets the tone in the home, if mommy is cheerful the children will be cheerful, if mommy is depressed, the children will be complainers, if mommy is a servant, the kids will be servants, if mommy is constantly bickering at her husband, don’t be surprised if the children don’t respect their daddy. God has given us moms such a huge task, and huge responsibility. I often see things in my children, and quickly realize that I must look inward to see what needs to change in me, when God gets ahold of my heart and I start to change, the children follow suit very quickly. Thank you Father for continuing to work out your image in my heart, I’ve got a long way to go, but I know I’m on the right track!

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6 Responses to Learning lessons in Cheerfulness

  1. Sis says:

    Awesome, sister! That’s exactly where it’s at! Your life lessons are teaching me too, all the time. I appreciate your heart that is willing to learn and admit that we women have the power to produce very positive results or very negative ones just by our attitude, actions, etc. The kids are just doing what we do. Great instruction for a new mother.
    My husband is sooooo excited to be a father! I said today, “What if we have twins?” His face lit up like I’d asked him if he wanted his favorite ice cream! What a guy!
    Love you sister. Thanks for your love and your patience with me as I’m growing. You’re an awesome sister! Talk to you soon!

  2. Kelley says:

    Good Job Jenni!!!! That is right if we as mommas can get it, it comes so easily for our children.We then don’t have to teach it because it is part of us!!! Continually praying for the Burns family.Love Kelley

  3. Note: It doesn’t ALWAYS work that way — that kids follow their mothers. My mother is the biggest servant I know, but somehow it never got passed on to my sister and myself. To this day I struggle just to get the stuff done that needs to be done and will happily give it to someone else to do if I can at the least do so!

  4. Sara H. says:

    Maybe you should just make a shirt that says, “Yes, I have my hands full. Yes, I love it!” Then you could nip it before people even make comments. I want to make a shirt that says, “Yes, this 3rd baby was planned, I homeschool, I breastfeed, I co-sleep, I serve my husband in a Godly way, and by the way, no I don’t know if my family is complete yet.” :-) Maybe then i’d stop getting THOSE questions.

    I think we may try a cheer chart… it’s a great idea!

  5. Kim says:

    What a great post, it is so true!! If I let myself be discouraged by people in public, I would have to avoid it altogether. I love your comment too Sara H.! I get the hands full comment ALOT and I also get “Oh no, four boys?? No girls? Not even one? You must have been trying for a girl, right?” all this in front of my boys ofcourse, arggggg! My second son Cami, he is six, has also started telling people who say those comments “we also just got a puppy and it is a boy and we have a turtle and its a boy too!!” I love kids:-)
    Well, I am loving the cheerful chart, sounds great and like the kids love it!

  6. Yes I have to remember the cheerful chart. That’s not the kind of recommendation in “every book” out there :)

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